The 4 C's

Some of the best lessons I have learned in my life I learned at home. Some of our worst habits are probably learned in the home as well taking the good with the bad but today I'll focus a little more on the good.

For those of you who don't know my parents, I have some of the best parents in the world. I marvel at there example they have given to me through my life.

One of the things that I don't think I have ever heard my parents do is to speak badly of anyone. It wasn't just when we are in public it was when we were with them in the confines of our home I never remember my parents speaking badly of anyone, and that is pretty impressive to me.

When we were kids my parents implemented the Four C's. Them being as follows:

Criticize
Condemn
Compare
Complain

We were simply not allowed to do any of them. My parents lived them, and I remember when we were first taught to abstain from them I would so quickly point out how my brother was comparing me to him, and he would say I was criticizing him, then I would obviously point out that he was condemning me and so on. It didn't take long before our parents got sick of us tattling on each other I am sure, but they were insistent that we got rid of these habits.

The 4 C's has changed my life! It has molded my attitude to be more positive and forgiving. It has helped me be a better person.

My mom taught me about the subconscious mind when I was little, and I don't know if it's true or not but I know that this insight has made me be better to those around me. I'll quickly run through the two major points I remember her teaching me.

- 1st The subconscious mind can't distinguish between joking and not joking. If you tell someone jokingly that they are stupid, their subconscious mind believes they are stupid. All ways be careful with your words, and especially your humor.

- 2nd For the subconscious mind to be balanced for every one bad thing you do to someone you have to do 7 nice things to them. Our mind's naturally focus on the bad and if you want someone's subconscious mind to think of you as neutral to them you have to do more good then bad. For someone to think good of you (in there subconscious mind) you have to do a lot more good then bad. This also helps me to realize that I need to focus more on the good that people do to me. I need to find the ways others try to serve me or make me happy and make a conscious effort to acknowledge and appreciate them.

Well that's all I got for tonight, a few things that help make me tick.

God bless you.

Fred