The 4 C's

Some of the best lessons I have learned in my life I learned at home. Some of our worst habits are probably learned in the home as well taking the good with the bad but today I'll focus a little more on the good.

For those of you who don't know my parents, I have some of the best parents in the world. I marvel at there example they have given to me through my life.

One of the things that I don't think I have ever heard my parents do is to speak badly of anyone. It wasn't just when we are in public it was when we were with them in the confines of our home I never remember my parents speaking badly of anyone, and that is pretty impressive to me.

When we were kids my parents implemented the Four C's. Them being as follows:

Criticize
Condemn
Compare
Complain

We were simply not allowed to do any of them. My parents lived them, and I remember when we were first taught to abstain from them I would so quickly point out how my brother was comparing me to him, and he would say I was criticizing him, then I would obviously point out that he was condemning me and so on. It didn't take long before our parents got sick of us tattling on each other I am sure, but they were insistent that we got rid of these habits.

The 4 C's has changed my life! It has molded my attitude to be more positive and forgiving. It has helped me be a better person.

My mom taught me about the subconscious mind when I was little, and I don't know if it's true or not but I know that this insight has made me be better to those around me. I'll quickly run through the two major points I remember her teaching me.

- 1st The subconscious mind can't distinguish between joking and not joking. If you tell someone jokingly that they are stupid, their subconscious mind believes they are stupid. All ways be careful with your words, and especially your humor.

- 2nd For the subconscious mind to be balanced for every one bad thing you do to someone you have to do 7 nice things to them. Our mind's naturally focus on the bad and if you want someone's subconscious mind to think of you as neutral to them you have to do more good then bad. For someone to think good of you (in there subconscious mind) you have to do a lot more good then bad. This also helps me to realize that I need to focus more on the good that people do to me. I need to find the ways others try to serve me or make me happy and make a conscious effort to acknowledge and appreciate them.

Well that's all I got for tonight, a few things that help make me tick.

God bless you.

Fred

Who's got the power, who's got the power??

I was working with my dad once and we were doing some construction work for someone. The lady that we were working for asked us what we thought about how she should arrange a certain room (I don't remember if it was paint color with the trim and window casings or something else but it was just a preference) I would usually let my dad talk to the people we worked for, he being the boss and all. He gave her the kind of answer that is like "either could work" and I thought 'this way looks better.' After she left I told my dad, my opinion and he said he agreed with me and I asked him why he didn't tell her. He simply said "what I think doesn't matter." I thought about it for a minute and he was right. It wasn't our house we were building. We wouldn't be looking at the room each day. Our opinion didn't really matter.

The lesson is a good one, in my opinion. We all have the tendency to think that our way of thinking and our opinions are correct. That's part of what makes us individual. However if we want to find peace with ourselves and those around us, especially our loved ones we need to realize that sometimes what we think doesn't matter, and that's OK.

Life is learning to balance ideas, principals, beliefs, and actions. Learning when your opinion does and doesn't matter, when to bristle up and when to calm down. Learning when to laugh and when to be serious. Learning how be patient with yourself and those around you. Learning how to accept any result that may come from any situation, and using the results that come to make you a better person. That is life. Every experience can teach you something, if you let it. Every person can show you how to be a better person, if you let them. Finding good everywhere, that is how you bring good out of others. Light cleaves unto light. Ask yourself what light is cleaving unto you?

Bridal your passions that you may be filled with love. Balance yourself, use your agency to control your attitude and you will learn to be at peace.

Come what may and love it.

Happyness

It is easier to be happy than to be mad. Why don't we realize this more often. When it all is said and done, life is short and the time we spend mad we aren't happy so what's the point of getting mad? Adam fell that man might be and man are that they might have joy. How many minutes do we throw away each day being mad or dwelling on things that bring us unhappy feelings. Take control of your thoughts and choose to find happiness in your situation. That would be my advice to everyone.